Have you ever been in a situation where you were: anxious, fearful, uneasy, upset, stressed out depressed, or other feelings that can be distressing? I know I have! All of these emotions share many things in common but the one I will be writing about is loss of control.
Seek Control Only To Lose It
I don’t know about you, but every time I try to control where the dishes go in the kitchen, I find them somewhere I did not place them. I could place labels on where things should go in the kitchen, but really all I want if for everyone to know where I want them to go. Just read my mind and do it or better yet, do as I have told you. However, that is not how the world works! People just don’t fall back and obey your every word.
This is true for the younger and older individuals. We all seek control in both the mundane as well as in the most important aspects of our lives. Seeing control at times can lead to more strife. We can not control; what people say about us, do to us when we least expect it, the weather, if we lose our jobs, or even know what tomorrow will bring. We are not gods. What we can control is ourselves to some degree. In a world of uncertainty there are many things one can use to keep themselves at peace. One of those things can be comfort items.
Gaining Your Self Control With Comfort Objects
Many people believe that comfort items should be for children as a coping mechanism. I am here to tell you that we all can reap the benefits of comfort items. So what are they? Well, it’s in the name. It is any item that you find brings comfort to you. It can be your lucky green sock that you must wear to play every soccer game. It can be a stress ball you squeeze from time time time at the office or wherever. It can be ypur favorite CD that brings you back to the good old days. It can be a blanket that your little one wraps themselves in when they a sad or overly excited.
The great thing about these items is that they allow one to relax and seek alternative ways of dealing with emotions. It can be an item of sentimental value or brings emotional comfort.
That old dirty sock can bring you solace during the game and dramatically decrease your anxiety. That Tutu can make you feel like a princess at school and give you that extra boost of confidence. That stress ball can assist you in reducing those negative thoughts of just quiting because you’ve had enough. We are resilient when we aim to reach out greatest self. I am not saying that comfort objects will get you there. I am saying that you have to take control over yourself and sometimes we need help doing that. Always be honest with your feelings and when you can’t figure out a way to express them, just remember there are professionals who can help.
As a closing note. I still have access to a comfort item. It is the bed that I shared with my parents and my sister. We would sleep on that bed up until my mother’s passing when I was 10 years old. I am now 32 years old. I am thankful that my dad had kept it for so long. To this day, when I lay down on that bed, I remember all the happy memories and the love that she had for us. I remember that I came from love and never to worry or feel that I am not cared for.
Thank you for reading! I want you to know, we all need to find ways to cope, otherwise we lose ourselves in our emotions. Sometimes, that’s part of the journey and other times it’s just drowning. That is when you need someone or people by your side to help you get through it.
Do you have any comfort object or items? What are they? Share your story, if you’re not shy. If you have any questions or comments, feel free to comment below.